Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers is the best book for the teenagers that is written by Sean Covey. That is the self-help book that will guide you in different situations. That was published in 1998. And this time that was the best selling book. That was very popular among the youngsters and elders also.

This book is easy to understand behind this there are two reasons. Number one that is related to the daily life of the teens and gives them a way to solve the problems. Second, there are used short stories. This reader can easily understand what the writer wants to say.

Role Of Habits in Success

Habits play a vital role in the future. Because We make habits and habits to make our future. We do not think to make good habits. We just think about the success and that is not enough. We have to develop some good habits for success. Like book reading

Dr Mike Murdock said about the habits:

“You don’t decide your future, you decide your habits and your habits decide your future.”

Dr Mike Murdock

Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers

We should know which habits we should change and develop. This book guides us to do so. In this book, we will know seven habits that can change our life. And how can we solve the problems?

Habit # 1 (Proactive)

That is a common habit nowadays. People are to blame others for not being successful in their lives. They could not do something for themselves and they are blaming the government or society or their fate. Those people are called to be a reactive man. On the other side, a proactive man takes responsibility for his actions and takes all control in his hands. He would not be provoked by someone and not blame someone for not happening something that he wanted. He focuses on those things that he can change not on those that he could not change.

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”

Stephen R. Covey

We should find solutions to our problems. Do not wait for others to solve your problems. For example, your life is like a car and you are the driver of your car. You should not sit in the car like a passenger you should sit in the car as a driver and take full responsibility for your actions.

Habit # 2 (Begin With the End In Mind)

That means that you should think about what you want to do in your life before you die. That is not a tough task. You just have to think about what you want in your life. Then start work for it. You should know about your destination. Once you determine your destination then that is easy to make habits to reach the goal. We drive our car and we have taken full control of our car from others, now it’s time to decide about the destination.

When you will set the destination then you can live a better life from others. If we do not decide what we should do in our life then our situations decide these things. You have to make the attitude of the beginning with the end in mind. And when you start work you should also think about the consequences of the work that you are going to start.

For example, in the teens, we want to take drugs. All are aware of the consequences of this but you should keep in your mind. So with this habit, we will save ourselves from different problems.

There are two perspectives of the beginning with the end in mind.

1. We can create long term within.
2. We know our destination.

Habit # 3 (Put First Thing First)

We usually waste our lots of time on useless activities. We have to do a lot of work in our life but instead of doing all these work we just waste our time. For example, we have a lot of work to do but instead of doing this work we scroll Facebook or watch TV or think about some useless things. That is our bad habit. We should do all our work first. Our work should be our priority. But unfortunately, we do not care about this habit. We do our important work in the end when we are tired of doing useless activities.

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.”

Stephen R. Covey

Especially, we do not work to develop our habits. That is one of the most important jobs because that is the base of our future. Put first thing first means in every situation you should think which thing is important for you then do this first.

Habit # 4 (Win-Win Situation)

We observe that many people just think about their success and do not think about others. For example, in our class, there is a student that must not share his notes with the others. He always thinks that if he will share his notes then other students get more marks.

But the win-win situation is indifferent from other. If we work together for success then we will be successful easily with the help of others. We should develop the habit of helping others. And succeeded. 

Habit # 5 (Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood)

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

Stephen R. Covey

That is a very important habit of listening to others and understanding. We should increase the capability of listening to others and understanding them. While communicating we should know first what is the point of view. We should understand why he is saying or behaving like this. We should not speak without understanding others. That is a very bad thing if you will not avoid this then people do not want to talk to you. Others begin to avoid you. We should work on our listening abilities first. And then understand it well.

Habit # 6 (Synergize)

We should do work as a team. In Habit # 4 we already talk about win-win situations. In teamwork, we should work with all the team. If two people do work then they could do better. But if we work as a team then the possibility of success is increased. And another reason for this habit is that in our team there are different people and we will accept the difference. We will be capable of living with all those.

In our life, we meet a lot of people but if we are not habitual to do work as a team then that will be very difficult for you. So we should seek how to handle every kind of person. We should accept diversity. That thing makes our life more interesting because everyone is different from others. No one is like you. We have to accept diversity, opinion and attitude of others. Once we accept this then we can easily work as a team. 

Habit # 7 (Sharpen the Saw)

That is the most important thing that we should develop. That habit relates to a story about a woodcutter trying to cut a tree but he could not do so because his axe is not sharp. A man passed by and said to him that he should sharpen your axe first. He already knew that this axe is not sharp so that I could not cut this tree easily. But instead of sharpening the axe, he replied man I have no time. I will do it another time.

This habit is shown as two things first we should work smartly. There is much difference between hard work and smart work.

Second, we should take care of ourselves and sharpen our mind from time to time. Like we should stay updated. We should gather interesting and useful information and feed our mind with positive thoughts. We should take proper rest and take time for exercise. We should take a break and rest. Meditation is the good thing for your mind and body and that is the best sharpener. You can develop the habit of meditation daily.

Conclusion

These are the atomic habits that are described in one of the best books Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers. If you are successful in developing seven habits in your life then no one can stop you to make a bright future. You just have to do work consistently and keep on developing these seven good habits in your life. You will make your habits and your habits make your future. Habits are the key to success. so, develop a habit from today and work for it.